Here it is....

[Monica*]

So me and Johnny broke up. Its really weird. Yea its sad and lonely and we are both angry and whtvr but most of all its just fucking really weird. I dated the kid like a 1/3 of my life. Almost 7 years. Shitty thing is. I feel like I am about to loose soo many friends. A lot of my close friends are male and either their girlfriends don't wanna us to talk anymore cuz I'm single or my f'n supossed home boy is now hitting on me. Fucking assholes. How about a hug next time!! I don't wanna be with anyone right now. I just wanna find myself and be free and happy and now with all this on my mind I gotta put up with my shitty friends. Sorry. I know I normally don't talk this harshly but I feel like it is necessary.


Another thing. Johnny and me are cool. We talk like every other day and have even gotten drunk together and nothing bad happened. He was the only one standing up for me at the show on Thurs. He said that I don't deserve to be treated badly and thats why we aren't together but now its just coming from other people. gggrrrr.....


Someone come to Chicago and visit me!!! The Paddy's Day Parade is this weekend! Lots of fun, Lots of beer, Lots of Green, lots of drunkin south-side irish folk. think about it.


mmmmmonica*

[ramble on rose]

Well, let me say that those who are really your friends will still be, those who aren't will fade and you will see. For those who's women won't let them be friends with you just know it is probably only due to the insecurites they have with the relationship. Which has nothing to do with you. I am sure it must be a hard time for you, my mr. and I have been together about that long and on thoses days I think I am fed up I try to imagine how different it would be if he wasn't around, and it would definatly be weird. It sounds like the perfect thing for you to do is just to be with monica for a while and make her happy. As long as you know in you heart what you needed to do for yourself, f__k anyone else. Don't let jerks get you down, we all know how great you are around here. Keep your head up and do your thing girl. smileys/smiley31.gifsmileys/smiley31.gifsmileys/smiley31.giffor you my dear. If I could make my way up to ya to party I would, but I will pound a few for ya on St. Patty's Day!!!! And if this year of new found freedoms and exploration brings you around my way, don't hesitate to come around. One Love darling!!!!

[ragmop]

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Yo, Monica*. Hugz to you, salsa queen. I was sorry to hear about you and Johnny. I have been where you are andit does suck, suck, suck. And ppls you think are friends sometimes doget freakin' weird after splits (even tho it's your freakin' life not theirs). Don't worry, your true friends will come through for you. Many"friends" will show you that they were mereacquaintances, and will treat you like shit through all this. Buta few very true friendswill surprise you andbe there for you.Trust me, they are out there. Hang in there, Monica*, it will get better.


Road trip sounds inviting, b/cI am only 45 min. away. And it don't get no better than St. Paddy's in Chi-town. But I got plans with the boyz tonight. smileys/smiley19.gif


But anytime you want to hang outwith avery laid back Irish boy from the South, South Side, you just lemme know. I got 2 ears, no waiting. (But don't get no crazy ideas. You have to promise not to hit on me--I am very old-fashioned! j/f/k) Hope things get better for you quickly.Peace . . .

[ben04]

Monica... I am so sorry to hear about your break up! It is so tough when you are with someone for so long. But we are always here for you!

[Laeyto]

Oh Monica, how cruddy people can be eh? So sorry that you are feeling rejected by your friends like that; that is a very poor reflection on their character.


I think everyone here will agree that you will totally come out of this a champ. You're an awesome girl, and for people like you, strife makes you grow beyond what you even thought you could be. And as crap as it feels at the time, loneliness always seems to bring out the best in people, from what I have seen. It's when people are too scared and too comfortable that lifedoesn't grow.I have great faith in what is waiting for you. Blessings always seem to come in disguise!


I would do that huggy thing too if I only knew how!! smileys/smiley16.gifAnd I would come visit you if you werent like 20 hours away from me. And if I had a car. And money. smileys/smiley17.gif Bah. One day there seriously needs to be some sort of get-together here.....

[LipstickVogue]

hey girl, i think its very wise that you want to take some time to yourself. so many people jump around from one bad relationship to another after they break up with a long-term boyfriend/girlfriend. taking time to be yourself and to learn and appreciate yourself is one of the best things you will ever do for yourself and you wont regret it. im sorry to hear that your friends are being so shitty.


*big hugs*

[B-Love]

Keep your head up girl..smileys/smiley2.gif

[PERRY]

You will always have support from us Monica. You are always here for us and we are always here for you. smileys/smiley2.gif

[Monica*]

smileys/smiley1.gif smileys/smiley19.gifThese are not badd tears. You guys are really making me feel a lot better. I just am not sure what the hell I am suppossed to do. I am trying to separate myself from him but its like only us knows what the other needs to hear. Arggg!! I just have never had an experience like this before. The last breakup I had was a 6month relationship when I was 15!!!! So what am I suppossed to be like. Should I not talk to him anymore. Will that make it easier or harder? He is still coming with me to my sister's wedding this weekend. I'm nervous. We have a hotel room. Dun dun dun....

[kelli420]

smileys/smiley31.gifsmileys/smiley31.gifsmileys/smiley31.gifawe monica, im sorry to hear about your friends. ive had a similar experience with girlfriends dont want their bf to chill with me and most of the time...they got the boot. people always say, "bros before hos" and well since you seem to have more guy friends too its kinda the same thing. i hope for your sake that these friends dont pick the ass over a sweet friend like you. if they do then they arent worth it and that leaves more room in your life to find new real friends.


i wish i could come to chicago and kick all the asses i need to til u get treated right but i cant. so keep you chin up girl and things will work out. if you ever need anything, im her for ya

[kelli420]

about the wedding thing, dun dun dun... um good luck on that one. thats a toughy to handle.


i think you should not cut him out of you life being that you guys seem like a support system. i do howver think maybe you guys should just take it easy and get used to the just friends thing. dont let him bring you down though or then its time to cut the rope. worry about #1 girl; do what makes you happy

[Monica*]

smileys/smiley2.gifthanx kelli


mmmwwwaaaaa!!!

[kelli420]

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[ragmop]

Monica*, do what your heart tells you to do. In my experience, you have fewer regrets following your heart smileys/smiley27.gifthan when youlisten to your head.smileys/smiley5.gif Hang in there.

[Monica*]

I really do appreciate all the advice guys. Keep it coming if you can. Thanx again.

[PERRY]

I dont know if going to the wedding and staying in the same room are a good idea. IMO Please be careful Monica smileys/smiley31.gif smileys/smiley2.gif

[the beav]

i know what you're going through. i dated a girl for 8 years before we broke up. oh well, live and learn.



the hardest lessons in life are the best ones learned.

[Laeyto]

Yikes! I don't know if him going to the wedding AT ALL is a good idea. smileys/smiley5.gif You don't have to cut him out of your life, but you do need space and time to get to the stage where you can be friends. I am sure your sister would understand why he wasn't there.


It is important to start building independent memories. It helps with the healing.....


Think about it luv.......

[Mr. Cleanface]

Monica*, do what your heart tells you to do. In my experience, you have fewer regrets following your heart smileys/smiley27.gifthan when youlisten to your head.smileys/smiley5.gif Hang in there.





I'm gonna have to disagree with ya on this one Rag. I think you have to use your head when you are in a bad or negative relationship where you or both are unhappy. Your heart will say, "stay with it, you love him,and give it another shot," when in your mind you know you should move on and end it. My advice would be to cut all ties, %100. Definitley don't hook-up at the wedding, and move on.Get new friends, do your own thing, find yourself without him in your life. It will make you stronger and you will be better for it.


I had to do it in the recent past, and I am much happier now than I was then, in that dragging relationship. We were always "working on it" and "giving it another chance" fighting, bringing up the past etc...and she was my BEST friend. The highs were the highest and the lows the lowest. We kept hammering on it when we knew it was a bad relationship, and was bringing us down.We had to end it %100. No contact, no social interaction, nothing. I separtated myself from many friends, and had to get my own life away from that relationship.


In our hearts we wanted to be together and make it work, but we knew it was negative, and bringing us down. If you don't think it will work and you guys are unhappy, be smart and end it completely! It is very hard and scary, but you will be better for it.


(((IMO)))

[PERRY]

Do what your smileys/smiley27.gif tells you to do.

[sass]

i think you'll be just fine. sounds like you 2 are good friends no matter what. and tell him you get the bed and he's sleepin' on the floor in the hotelsmileys/smiley2.gif

[Monica*]

Well... so much for waiting for the weekend. OOPS!! But that is totally over and done with. For real. That was the last hoo-rah.


The reason why he is coming to the wedding though is because that day belongs to my sister. All the focus should be on her and not all the family and friends asking about Johnny. (they would hound me about it) Also, I have family from Texas and Mexico coming into town for the first time since my Dad's funeral. They have been waiting to meet Johnny for almost 7 years and it still means a lot to me (and Johnny) that they all meet. I really feel like it is the right decision that he be at the wedding. I mean, his parents are even gonna be there. I guess I will just have to wait and see...

[kelli420]

Well... so much for waiting for the weekend. OOPS!! But that is totally over and done with. For real. That was the last hoo-rah.








it cant be over until the fat lady sings...it sounds like to me she only humming loudly. if it means that much that you guys go to the wedding together to meet fam and what not; maybe you should stay in different hotel rooms. just an idea.

[Laeyto]

Its a tricky situation with no right answer. I just wish you luck girl!! You'll have to let us know how it turns out! Well, no, you don't HAVE to of course, but I am definately going to be thinking about you this weekend and wondering how it turned out.


GOOD LUCK MONICA!

[Laeyto]

But wait, what do you mean by:


Well... so much for waiting for the weekend. OOPS!! But that is totally over and done with. For real. That was the last hoo-rah.


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[greengirlie]

awww well im sorry monica*. wish i had some good advice... but hey... look on the bright side- you can hook up w/ garrett at the next show you go 2 smileys/smiley2.gif

[Monica*]

awww well im sorry monica*. wish i had some good advice... but hey... look on the bright side- you can hook up w/ garrett at the next show you go 2 smileys/smiley2.gif


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good call greenie!!

[Monica*]

The wedding was awesome. My family had a blast and they all loved Johnny. He cought the friggin garder. smileys/smiley5.gifWhtvr. We did a lot of talking and he doen't seem to sure that we are making the right decision anymore. I'm not always that sure either but I am ginna stick to my guns. I'm just at that point of my life. Who knows, maybe we'll be back together a year from now and be better that ever. Maybe we just gotta be away from each other to realize how we need to be treating each other and that we really do love each other. I dunno. Only time will tell. Thanx for your support guys. Love you all!!!

[ramble on rose]

glad you had a good time at the wedding. I am also glad to hear you are sticking by your decisions. You are right if it is ment to be you will find your ways back to one another if not you got to share something special(the good and bad times) with him that you can always look back on and smile. So do your thing girl and soak up that Monica time.

[Monica*]

smileys/smiley2.gif~ RoR

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smileys/smiley31.gif-Monica*