sh*t hit the fan

[kelli420]

smileys/smiley19.gifok so my bf broke up withmeand hes moving(d) out....im fucked. for rent for everything. i dont exactly know how things work with a lease cause we're both on it but hes breaking it....anyone know how to go about not getting fucked? i cant afford his half of the bills and findin someon to move in is impossible im findingsmileys/smiley19.gifsmileys/smiley19.gifsmileys/smiley19.gif

[ragmop]

Kelli, I am very sorry to hear the bad news. Chin up. Try making through one day at a time. It's more manageable.


Check with a lawyer in your area. Consultations are typically free, or should be.


As for the lease issue, every State is different, but here in Illinois both renters are liable for the rent, individually or jointly--it's landlord's choice who to go after. Landlord still expects full payment of the rent from you, and won't care about bf situation. I assume there was no written agreement between you and bf regarding who pays what. But in Illinois an oral agreement b/w you two, if proven is enforceable.


M2C: Ifyou were to leave, you would be breaching your contract, and landlord could sue you for the remainder of the rent due. However, I don't know the laws of your State, but in Illinoisa landlord has a duty to actively look for renters. In order to sue for the entire remainder of your lease, thelandlord hasto prove that he actively advertisedthe place for a competitive rate and was unable to get anybody to rent the placefor the rest of the term of your lease. That's why it is important to considerthese questions before you decide to move: Howfar into lease are you?What is rental marketlike there--more renters than units or vice versa? Calculate worse case scenario.


Good luck, and I let us know you're okay.


Peace . . . .

[ben04]

Kelli, I am so sorry to hear about this. Ican only imaginehow difficult and shitty this is for you and of course of top of everything else that is going on in your life. We are here for you, as shown by the free legal advice!If you can get out of the rent it might be worth moving back home or staying at a friends to try to save up some money.

[Mr. Cleanface]

So sorry to here that Kelli. I know I don't know the details, but your ex sounds like a Grade A azzhole for taking off and leaving you to deal with all the bills, leases, payments, etc... on your own. Hopefully you will be better off without him.


Keep your chin up and don't be afraid to ask us for advice. Especially Ragmop with any legal questions. Take care...


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[Monica*]

sorry baby girl.

[B-Love]

I am very sorry to hear that Kelli, our thoughts are with you, Keep yo head up. smileys/smiley1.gif

[BoPicasso]

Well the good thing is if u hook up with G on the cruise u wont have to feel guilty now huh.

[JLynn22]

if its a 2 bedroom you could advertise on Roomates.com and try to pick up a roomy. I found my place on this site and the lady I live with is great, she also rents out 2 other rooms which fill up as soon as someone moves out. Hey sorry to hear about your break up but take it as a learning lesson!!! THe worst that will happen is you break your lease and pay a fine.


I hope life gets better for you,... Take care.smileys/smiley2.gif

[BoPicasso]

Have u ever seen the movie single white female??? Nuff said!!

[Monica*]

a lot of my friends use www.Craigslist.com (http://www.Craigslist.com)

[cursed]

not to be insensitive but does this mean your officially on the marketsmileys/smiley15.gif sorry i couldnt help it. good luck

[scurfing]

Sorry to hear it hun.. The same thing has happened to me after being with a guy for a year and a bit, chin up it get's better and take everyone's advice, look for a roomie, check out your options legally, & home will always be there when you need it. One of my best friends now is the chick who moved in just after dickhead moved out.


Keep smilinsmileys/smiley2.gif

[kelli420]

Well the good thing is if u hook up with G on the cruise u wont have to feel guilty now huh.


omg talk about looking at the bright side of things!!! but this is the deal


we signed a lease for 1 yr only 3 months ago. douchebag says he doesnt care bout the rent cause he alreadyu pd mays......ive told him bout the legal shit and still no caring. ive looked high and low for a replacement for him to carry out the remainder of the lease but have had No luck. i do believe i will be oving out cause he really is screwing me....and i just registered for fall classes which i owe them a grand by aug. 3.....i just pd off the cruise and got tix for g love in A.C. depending on how this pans out he could in theory be fucking me so much worse. oh did i mention that the security deposit $870 is all my money that im also gonna lose?! ggggrrrrr im so irritated, wish i knew he was this much of an irresponsible douchebag 4 yrs ago. thanks for all your support guys i love yas lots.


ok so whos movin to pa smileys/smiley2.gifi know this great apt and a hot girl........lol

[Pokie325]

sorry kelli. that really blows. hope ya find a roomie soon

[kelli420]

ok so i talked to the landlord and we are both responsible for the rent until the end opf lease or until they find a new tennant...which she said could take months....and were responsible fro rent until tenant moves in....in other words she said it will take not even 2 months for them to get us into court for money for f'n the contract........................o im fucked

[ben04]

I am sorry Kelli, Just keep looking and paying your part of the rent. Your x is a real ass.... I can't beleive someone who cared so much about you would end up doing this. Tells you something about people! I'd move in with you if I lived in PA!

[kelli420]

dude the lady told me it wont matter if i pay my half...they expect full payment and dont care where it comes from....i cant find anyone to move in i am so f'd..... and i just tried to call douchebag at work to tell him the news on his irresponsibility and he didnt go to work again today! wtf i have no way of finding him or getting ahold of him.ggggrrrr

[undercoverlover]

man you are in a sticky situation so sorry to hear that


i think that maybe it's time you try to get some higher up help


don't know what to tell you


sorry mama

[kelli420]

i dont think i wanna live with somnone i dont know--- but it is a 2 bedroom...anyone wanna move to philly? its great here!

[BoPicasso]

Kelli, I hope that everything works out. Just keep your head up.. Life is hard, and rarely works out like you plan..


Will your parents help you at all?

[kelli420]

my parents need all the help they can get right now. my dad just recently became an amputee and we're all still trying to adjust to that. this is gonna be a long haul. ya know im so pissed about this situation i could kick his ass

[the beav]

this whole situation sucks. sorry to hear about it. just keep your head up, and trust that it will all work out in the end.

[pfawnk]

kelli, i feel so bad for you and i don't even know you. that really sucks. every one i know's been either going through some effed shit as well or just going through a funk. the best advice i know is just to keep your head up and work your way through it. sorry again.

[kelli420]

thanks guys smileys/smiley31.gif

[CynCyn]

...anyone wanna move to philly? its great here!


I'm thinking about it...I am def sick of heresmileys/smiley11.gif Peoples always need a change of scenery, ya know what i mean?? Unfortunately I go to school here and can't leave now. Good luck to you, things will work out I'm sure...keep smilinsmileys/smiley4.gif

[kelli420]

ok so i talked to the landlord yesterday..and she told me that douchebag said he would pay his half of the rent directly to her and i would mail mine....so he moved out and is still paying. so i have some fun times ahead! i went to the store yesterday with my handy dandy credit card and bought all this new stuff for my apt. since he took lots of it. haha now when he comed to get the rest of his stuff hes gonna see how much i dont give a fuck that hes doin this. im so f'n happy its friday. the partys at my place all weekend:)smileys/smiley4.gif

[BoPicasso]

LOL.. Thats great that you get to keep the place and only have to pay your half!

[kelli420]

yeah but we'll see how long it lasts...i'll take it as long as i can. he still hasnt gotten the rest of his stuff but i'll offer the place to him and a friend if i can get off the lease and then i'l move home and save mad cash!!! either way im partyin til then......if anyone wants to come chill...i got plenty of roomsmileys/smiley2.gif

[Monica*]

dude you are so friggin hilarious. knew that things would work out for you.

[kelli420]

well i know that im better off and no matter how much i love him..things will never change and love sometimes isnt enuf.....thanks for all the support guys.smileys/smiley8.gif

[mello]

He will be liable whether he stays or goes so it's in his best interestto figure out a way to get out of the lease. In many states, landlords will require you to pay one months rent to get out of it. let the landlord know that he is still responsible and that you can't afford this. Don't let him get out of it without your total approval.

[mello]

Just saw that your set on the apartment front. congrats

[greengirlie]

YAY!!! glad things worked out. they always do and good luck o nthe cruise girlsmileys/smiley2.gif

[kribit]

Hey Kelli, I live in Philly and if you're still looking for someone to
take the other room you should def try listing it on craigslist.
I know lots of people who that worked out for. Also list it in
the school papers near you. I've used Drexel's and Penn's
classifieds before.

[kelli420]

hhhmmm i dont think i want to live with someone i dont know...id rather itd be a friend or at least a friend of a friend. thanks thosmileys/smiley4.gif